Family recovery course Session 09

Getting Them to Treatment

You cannot force someone into recovery. You can make a clearer ask, know what kind of help you are asking for, and stop improvising when the window finally opens.

About 26 minutes Watch · Worksheet · Three prompts

What you'll learn

Three ways to stop guessing when the question is treatment.

01

Make the ask specific

A vague 'will you get help?' gives everyone too much room to slip away. This session narrows the ask: assessment, detox, residential, outpatient, a release for family participation, or another concrete next step.

02

Use the three-part personal ask

Lead with love, name reality, and ask for the exact next step. You are not trying to win the whole history of the family in one conversation. Keep the ask the ask.

03

Know when to bring in help

A formal intervention is not something to improvise in the living room. Learn the difference between a personal ask, a Johnson-style intervention, and an invitational ARISE approach.

The idea, in one line

You cannot force recovery, but you can make a better ask.

The family does not have to solve the whole disease, the whole relationship, or the whole future in one conversation. Your job is to know the next right door, say why it matters, and have enough support ready that you are not building the plan during the crisis.

Your worksheet

Build the treatment entry plan.

Name the exact next step, write the three-part ask, choose whether this is a personal conversation or a professional intervention, and gather the names you would need if the window opened today.

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Session 09 · Worksheet

The treatment entry plan

Ten quiet minutes. Answers save on this device as you type — no account, no upload.

Step 1 Write the exact next step you are asking for.

Do not start with "get help." Start with the door. Assessment, detox evaluation, residential treatment, IOP, therapy, medication consult, a signed release, or another concrete next move.

The next step

Step 2 Draft the three-part personal ask.

Keep this narrow. Love says you are on their side. Reality names what you see and what cannot continue. The next step tells them exactly what you are asking for.

Love Reality Specific next step

Step 3 Choose the entry path.

A personal ask may be enough. If the risk is higher, the pattern is entrenched, or the family needs alignment, talk to a trained interventionist about a Johnson-style or ARISE approach.

Why a personal ask might work Use this if the door is already partly open. Why professional help may be needed Do not improvise a formal intervention alone.

Step 4 Gather the names before the crisis.

If you interview an interventionist, ask about training, credentials such as CIP or ARISE certification, conflicts of interest, and how they decide what level of care is appropriate.

Qualified interventionist or treatment professional names

01 · Three meetings, recovery groups, or peer supports for my loved one 02 · Three outpatient, counseling, or assessment options to call 03 · One detox, residential, or treatment-placement resource 04 · Two supports for the family: Al-Anon, therapist, family group, coach

Three reflection prompts for the week

Pick one. Or all three. Or none. Your call.

For this week

Write the exact next step you are asking for. If you cannot name it in one sentence, pause and gather more information before the conversation.
For the conversation

Draft the ask in three parts: love, reality, specific next step. Practice it out loud once before you need it.
For support

Find two qualified interventionists or treatment-assessment resources and one support option for the family. Crisis is a bad time to start searching from scratch.

Up next

Session 10 · Keeping Them There

Treatment is not the finish line. The next question is what happens when recovery has to survive ordinary life.

Continue to session 10 Back to all sessions

If this brought up more than it answered

A coach can sit with you on that.

CVR family coaches work with one family at a time. Private, one-on-one, no scripts. If you want to talk to someone, we can usually get back to you within a few hours.

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